For years, my house has served as a haven for my friends who want to run away from their problems in the big city. It is smack dab in the middle of a little ranch that I inherited from my parents, and there are no neighbors who may snoop around. In truth, the closest one lives on another farm, which is only accessible by car.
Before the quarantine, I had a new guest: my best friend, Olivia. She was in a long-term relationship with Alex—almost 12 years—and we all thought that it was the forever kind of love between them. They always looked happy and sweet together, which sometimes made me question if my beau and I were that in love. However, it eventually became revealed that Alex had been cheating on Olivia in the last six years.
When my best friend was relaying what happened to her relationship, my heart broke for her. I could see how hurt she was, weeping and staring into nothingness often. It did not help that Alex had been trying to call her, begging to “fix what they had.”
As much as I wanted to see Olivia smile again, though, I could not allow her to take Alex back. Those years of getting lied to were enough; she could find a much better guy than her ex.
My best friend might have protested and left my house if not for the travel restrictions due to the coronavirus. Thus, it feels like the quarantine can help people who can’t move on by giving you the luxury to:
Not See The Other Person For A While
The main benefit of being quarantined is that you cannot come to anyone else’s house. You need to stay at home as much as possible and only go out for groceries and medical needs. That’s how you can ensure your safety against COVID-19.
Of course, the quarantine prevents your ex from visiting you. No matter how much the man wants to come and try to woo you, the strict policy forbids him from doing so. It then offers you a chance to collect your thoughts and let go of your feelings before meeting that person again.
Unplug From Social Media
Social media platforms are similar to bear traps, in the sense that they can cripple you if you get caught in them. After all, considering the years of memories that you may have shared, you can log in and look at old photos of yourselves repeatedly. That makes it practically impossible for you to get over the failed relationship.
The quarantine does not sound too bad because of this issue. Your work may halt, and your loved ones are home, so you need not be online every day. This opportunity prevents you from reminiscing and playing with the idea of getting back with your ex.
Focus On Yourself
Another incredible thing about this quarantine is that you can focus on yourself again. You have likely forgotten how to do that due to being in a relationship for a long time. But since you are no longer shacking up with anyone, it will be effortless for you to remember who you are and can be.
I understand how unnatural it may be to think only of yourself at first. We have all had our fair share of breakups; we know that some people choose to stick with a cheater because that’s what’s comfortable. Despite that, once you focus on feeling whole, you won’t regret it.
My best friend has developed a practical outlook in life after doing everything mentioned above. Oliva has realized her worth as a woman; she won’t let anyone walk all over her. Even though it may take a while before she becomes ready to find a new man, what matters is that she has moved on finally.