My boyfriend and I broke up in the first week of March after six years of living together. It was unexpected on my part because we did not argue about anything on that day. In truth, I could only count with my right hand the number of times we had a lovers’ quarrel. But when I came home from work, I saw his suitcase by the door, realizing that he only waited to tell me that it’s over between us.
No matter how much I loved that man, I forced myself not to beg him to stay. Still, I could not help but ask how we ended up in that situation. His answer was, “We have gotten too in sync with each other; the spark is already gone.”
My ex-boyfriend said that slowly, but it felt like a hard slap on my face. What I thought was the strength of our relationship, he saw it as the most significant weakness. I knew then that I could not say or do anything to change his mind, so I let him go. And there I was, alone and brokenhearted.
The breakup, however, came at the most unfortunate time. A few days after my ex left, the quarantine orders rolled in my state. At the same time, my boss decided that it was best to work from home to avoid catching the coronavirus. Most of my colleagues were glad about that, but I was not.
I honestly wondered what awful things I might have done in my past lives to be in this situation. As it turned out, aside from being brokenhearted, I was also isolated. There was no worse combination than that.
Nevertheless, I am writing this in June. I have survived the isolation while mending my broken heart, even though it has appeared to be impossible at first. How?
Talk To Your Closest Friends
The first and only thing you can do at the moment is to talk to your best friends. They cannot hug you or hold your hand in support due to the pandemic, but they can listen to you for as long as necessary. All you need to do is open up them so that you can go through the grieving process more quickly.
Let Go Of Everything That Reminds You Of Your Failed Relationship
My breakup has made me realize that the person who leaves never brings any item that will remind them of your relationship. They typically do not touch them and leave the other person to find them. At least, that’s what my ex did to everything we bought or collected over the years.
No matter how expensive those objects are, you need to part with them to avoid remembering your failed coupling. The most satisfying way to do that is by burning the items, of course. But if it is impossible in your location, you can send them to the Good Will or Salvation Army.
Look For New Hobbies
The isolation has been excellent, considering I have not needed to act okay in front of anyone. When I attend Zoom meetings for work, I can say that I have just rolled out of bed so I have not had a chance to dress up. After that, I get to remain silent for hours, and no one tries to shake me.
I say that it has done me good because I felt bored with this routine and caused me to look for new hobbies. The fact that there are too many choices has occupied my mind for a while, so my broken heart heals slowly but surely.
It has been almost three months since my ex-boyfriend broke up with me and the pandemic broke out. Now, I can only see both as learning curbs, and I am ready to move on with my life.