Comments on: Doubts (Revisited)

By: Curt Rosengren

Curt Rosengren — Wed, 03 Oct 2007 16:54:01 +0000

What an amazing post, Kimberly! Thanks for your honesty and vulnerability in sharing this. For me, the positive side of your message has that much more impact knowing that you can question it and still find your way back.

Keep up the great work1

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Sun, 23 Sep 2007 15:21:05 +0000

Thank you for your comment Jackie! I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and work towards body acceptance too and your comment resonated with me on that level. There are so many “shoulds” for people these days: the way we should look, the way we should act, the things we should think, the way we should approach our health and well being; and virtually all the shoulds are unrealistic for most people.

I don’t know why we as a culture feel the need to dominate our minds and bodies and why failure to do so means weakness. I would argue that when we stop trying to control all these things and instead work within what we’ve been given it’s much easier to lead happy and fulfilling lives At a certain point we have to accept that we are who we are in all of our unique beauty and we know for ourselves what we need to do to be happy.

So good for you for really claiming what you know about yourself and living by it! Even though it’s hard I think ultimately our struggles now will make us much happier in the end.

By: Jackie

Jackie — Sun, 23 Sep 2007 15:06:38 +0000

I found your post interesting, from the perspective of me having Asperger’s Syndrome. When you grow up, in Special Ed, there is alot of talk about how you’re supposed to do things. Like you are supposed to have a job, and supposed to live on your own. Alot of things that are very very stressful for Aspies.

Your post is like the journey I am on now, trying to rid myself of the negative programming I got from all those years in Special Ed. Like, how my issues should be something I’m able to control. I’ve learned that’s not true, alot of the issues have a physical component I can’t really do anything about, like Hyperacusis.

I think we live in far too much of a fast-minded society. It’s like, hey if you’re not juggling at least 5 things at one time, you’re being a lazy person! That’s BS. I think things would be better if life wasn’t like that. Like in Japan how they take a workout break in the middle of the day. Is it any wonder why the Japanese are in the forefront of technology? They’re not putting the stress on 24/7.

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Tue, 18 Sep 2007 17:23:07 +0000

This part â€œI went into that spiral of bitterness that results from fear that being upset was just making everything worseâ€ is the hardest, for me anyway.

I think the trick to avoiding this is to believe that we’re allowed to feel like shit and we’ll be protected when we do. If we are creating our own reality, knowing that we’re protected when we have breakdowns will be a reality too. The second part of the trick is trying to feel better though … for me it took about a month to get back on my feet, but I did things along the way that gave me comfort too.

By: Annette Rojas

Annette Rojas — Tue, 18 Sep 2007 16:29:32 +0000

I am so sorry you’re going through this. It feels like a punch in the gut. This part “I went into that spiral of bitterness that results from fear that being upset was just making everything worse” is the hardest, for me anyway. I’m glad to see your fighting back and turning it around.

Sending positive energy!